I hear it all the time. “I’m just not creative.” It’s usually said casually, like it’s a simple fact. No hesitation, no second thought. But every time I hear it, something in me pauses.
Because I don’t think it’s true. I think what people really mean is that somewhere along the way, they stopped. Stopped drawing, stopped experimenting, stopped making things just to see what would happen.
And in its place, something else moved in… the need to measure it. Is it good? Is it worth showing? Is it as good as someone else’s?
When you watch kids create, none of those questions exist. They don’t hesitate. They don’t worry about whether the colors go together or if it looks like anything recognizable. They just begin. There’s a kind of freedom there that doesn’t question itself. But over time, we learn to be aware. To compare. To improve. And eventually, to perform. Creating shifts from something we do naturally into something we feel like we have to be good at to justify doing at all. For a lot of people, that’s where it quietly ends. Not because the creativity is gone, but because it no longer feels safe.
But here’s what I’ve noticed. When people sit down and start making something again, even just a little, something shifts. Their shoulders drop. They get quieter, in a good way. Time seems to soften a bit around the edges.
There’s something about using your hands that pulls you out of your head and into the moment. You stop overthinking. You stop performing. You just exist inside the process for a while. And it doesn’t really matter what’s being made. It could be messy, simple, or something you never show anyone. That’s not the point. The point is how it feels while you’re in it.
I think especially for women, this matters more than we realize. We carry a lot. We manage a lot. We move through our days with a constant awareness of what needs to be done, fixed, handled, or remembered. There’s very little space that exists just for the sake of experiencing something. Not producing, not achieving, not improving. Just being. And making something, even something small, creates that space. It isn’t frivolous. It isn’t extra. It’s restorative. It’s a way of coming back to yourself without needing a reason.
Maybe it’s simpler than we’ve made it.
Maybe it looks like pulling out a piece of paper and a few colors and not having a plan.
Letting it be uneven. Letting it be unfinished. Letting it be yours without needing it to be anything more than that.
Because in the end, it isn’t really about what you make. It’s about what opens up in you when you allow yourself to make it. And the feeling of letting go of all expectations.
What would you create if no one was going to judge it? What would it feel like to sit down, pick up something simple, and let it be enough just to try?
Maybe it’s not about becoming an artist. Maybe it’s about remembering that you were never as far from it as you thought.
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